Changing Your Words To Reach Your Dreams

I have a question and it’s a pretty intense question - what would your life be like if you could take all the negative emotions you ever felt and lower their intensity so they didn’t impact you as powerfully, so you are always in charge

What would your life be like if you could take the most positive emotions and intensify them, thereby taking your life to a higher level? You can do both of these. Change your words and you will change your experiences and your outcomes.

So If I change the following words, I can change their impact on me. For example:

Change:

• Afraid to disenchanted
• Confused to curious
• Exhausted to recharging
• Failure to learning
• Hurt to bothered
• Hate to I prefer
• Nervous to energised
• Overwhelmed to many opportunities
• Stressed to blessed

If I change the following positive words to even more positive, I could increase their intensity and in turn increase the way they feel for me. For example:

If I changed:

• Determined to unstoppable
• Excited to ecstatic
• Good to magic
• Good to vibrant
• Great to exuberant
• Interested to enthralled
• Motivated to passionate
• Okay to fantastic
• Okay to perfect
• Strong to invincible
• Terrific to ecstatic

How much more inspiring are these words?

If we are going to change the words we use, we are really changing our habits. So how do you change habits?

To change habits, do the following:

Decide that you are committed to having a life with deeper positive experiences and less negative experiences

Acknowledge that the language you use has an impact on the experiences you have

Pick three words in the positive category to replace and give more intensity to

Pick three words in the negative category to replace and give less meaning to

Find people around you who can support you. These three people will remind you (gently and nicely) that you need to be using the new words

Do it for 10 days, then review and tweak if needed

If you have found you enjoy these new words then perhaps you can pick three more words to use so that your language becomes your asset.

"Be an inspiration to yourself
and you will be an inspiration to others."

Be Happy Before You Have a Reason

“I am happy before I have a reason.” I wish I could tell you who this quote is from but I have no idea. Have you ever put much thought into what makes you happy? What do you need to be happy? What needs to occur for you to be happy?

Have you realised that for many of us, our default state is that of not being happy. For some people their happiness is not dependent on them but on others. Some people feel that loved ones must prove their love constantly for them to be happy.

Have you thought about the saying “What you focus on is what you get?” So if you are focusing on happiness, what happens? If you are focusing on not being happy, what happens?

I am fascinated by language at the moment. Really listening to what people are saying and more importantly how they are saying it. Just today, a conversation with some friends, I will give them names for the sake of story telling.

Julie: “How was the high tea?”
Sally: “I was disappointed.”
Julie: “Really? Why?”
Sally: “Everything was beautiful - the food, the set up, it was all lovely, but I would have liked more people in my age group there.”
Julie: “Oh – so you still enjoyed yourself?”
Sally: “Yes, of course.”

What do you think of that conversation? I found it interesting that Sally focused on such a negative aspect to start with and that overall Sally had enjoyed herself. The food was lovely, the people there were lovely, she just had one expectation that wasn’t met and that tainted her whole view of the event. Do you do this sometimes? Need everything to be ‘just right’ to give something the tick of approval or are you someone who just needs most things to be ‘just right’ to feel that it was fantastic?

We, in this world that we live in, really do have so many reasons to be happy as we don’t have loads of obstacles in our way. We have fresh running water, we have roofs over our heads, and we have food in our cupboards.

Our attention is often caught at what is going wrong. Perhaps it is as easy as looking for what is good or right.

Ultimately, we can’t be a source of happiness for others until we are a source of happiness for ourselves first. So how can you be happy for yourself?

Whoever we are and whatever we believe, much of what we call happiness is in our own hands. It need not have a reason, it need not depend on events outside our selves, and it is not beyond our power to choose. Does happiness arise primarily from how we perceive and value life itself? From how we perceive and treat other people and from how we value our own existence? How we think about our own existence is critical. Not just how we think or how positively we think but who and what we think we are.

We can be the cause of immense happiness for ourselves and others even or especially in the face of pain and grief. Happiness isn’t just joy, bliss, pleasure, fun. It is all those things sometimes and yet from a sacred perspective particularly, happiness more accurately describes a state of aliveness that has abundant room for compassion and sorrow. That has the patience to be forgiving.

What we care about, we will protect.

For thousands of years we have had profound spiritual teachings available to us, from the north, south, east and west that our personal happiness isn’t about grasping and getting. It is about caring well beyond our golden gate.

We should love our neighbours as we love ourselves.

Loving ourselves can already be a challenge.

As the Dalai Lama says “Be kind whenever possible and it is always possible.”

So start to focus on your happiness. Be happy for no other reason than you choose to be happy right now. Others will feel the positive energy or vibes from you. You will be someone they want to be around. You will be an inspiration to others. How wonderful is that?

“Be an inspiration to yourself and you will be an inspiration to others.”

How the Words You Use Create Your Reality

The Power of Words 
“I know nothing in the world that has as much power as a word. Sometimes I write one, and I look at it, until it begins to shine.” ― Emily Dickinson

Words … they have been used to make us laugh and cry. They can wound or heal us. They offer us hope or devastation. With words, we can make our noblest intentions felt and our deepest desires known. Words are amazing and yet we often just say them without thinking about what we are saying and the effect they could be having on ourselves or those around us.

We use words to speak to others often we also use words to speak to ourselves consistently and constantly.

Throughout human history, our greatest leaders and thinkers have used the power of words to transform our emotions, to enlist us in their causes and to shape the course of destiny. Words cannot only create emotions, they create actions. And from our actions flow the results of our lives.

Some famous speeches that have impacted world events:

Who can forget the moving invocation of Martin Luther King, Jr., as he shared his vision, “I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up and live the true meaning of its creed...”


John F Kennedy’s speech “and so, my fellow Americans: ask not what your country can do for you - ask what you can do for your country.”


The speech by Earl Spencer at his sister Diana, The Princess of Wales’ funeral, “I stand before you today, the representative of a family in grief, in a country in mourning, before a world in shock.


We are all united, not only in our desire to pay our respects to Diana, but rather in our need to do so, because such was her extraordinary appeal that the tens of millions of people taking part in this service all over the world via television and radio who never actually met her feel that they too lost someone close to them in the early hours of Sunday morning.

It is a more remarkable tribute to Diana than I can ever hope to offer to her today.”

The examples could go on and on.

Many of us are well aware of the powerful part that words have played in our history, of the power that great speakers have moved us, but few of us are aware of our own power to use these same words to move ourselves emotionally, to challenge, embolden, and strengthen our spirits, to move ourselves to action, to seek greater richness from this gift we call life.

An effective selection of words to describe the experience of our lives can heighten our most empowering emotions. A poor selection of words can devastate us just as surely and just as swiftly. Most of us make unconscious choices in the words that we use; we sleep walk our way through the maze of possibilities available to us. Realise now the power that your words command if you simply choose them wisely.

This is what I am hoping to pass onto you today. The power of words. How they can change your direction, empower you and help your dreams become your reality.

Words - What a gift these simple symbols are! We transform these unique shapes we call letters (or sounds, in the case of the spoken word) into a unique and rich tapestry of human experience. They provide us with a vehicle for expressing and sharing our experience with others; however, most of us don’t realise that the words you habitually choose also affect how you communicate with yourself and therefore what you experience.

Words can injure our egos or inflame our hearts – we can instantly change any emotional experience simply by choosing new words to describe to ourselves what we’re feeling. If, however, we fail to master words, and if we allow their selection to be determined strictly by unconscious habit, we may be denigrating our entire experience of life. If you describe a magnificent experience as being “pretty good,” the rich texture of it will be smoothed and made flat by your limited use of vocabulary. People with an impoverished vocabulary live an impoverished emotional life; people with rich vocabularies have a multi-hued palette of colours with which to pain their experience, not only for others, but for themselves as well.

Most people are not challenged though by the size of the vocabulary they consciously understand, but rather by the words they choose to use.

We must realise that the English language is filled with words that, in addition to their literal meanings, convey distinct emotional intensity. For example, if you develop a habit of saying you ‘hate’ things – you ‘hate’ your hair, you ‘hate’ your job, you ‘hate’ having to do something – do you think this raises the intensity of your negative emotional states more than if you were to use a phrase like “I dislike “ or “I prefer something else?”

Using emotionally charged words can magically transform your own state or someone else’s. How do the words “impeccable” or “integrity” compare to “well done” and “honesty”? The words “pursuit of excellence” certainly creates more intensity than “trying to make things better.”

Simply by changing your habitual vocabulary – the words you consistently use to describe the motions of your life – you can instantaneously change how you think, how you feel, and how you live.

Taken from “Awaken The Giant Within” by Anthony Robbins

“Be an inspiration to yourself and

you will be an inspiration to others.”

How to Improve Your Communication

Have you ever taken the time to think of the words you often use to describe things? It is known as the way you habitually communicate. The way we speak and the words we use are often from habit. They are the ones that come to our mind without us even thinking.

How do you habitually communicate with your kids, your work colleagues, your partner, your friends? Often we don’t realise the power of our words have on them. Children, as well as adults, tend to take things personally, and we need to be sensitised to the possible ramifications of thoughtless remarks.

Think what could occur if instead of continually blurting out impatiently, “You’re so stupid!” or “You’re so clumsy!” – a pattern that can in some cases powerfully undermine a child’s sense of self-worth – break your own pattern by saying something like “I’m getting a little bit peeved with your behaviour; come over here and let’s talk about this.”

Not only does this break the pattern, allowing both of you to access a better state to intelligently communicate your feelings and desires, but it also sends the child the message that the challenge is not with them as a person but with their behaviour – something that can be changed. This can be the foundation for more powerful and positive communication between two people. It may mean that you have a more powerful and positive impact on your kids.

The key in any of these situations is to be able to break your pattern; otherwise, in your unresourceful state, you may say things you’ll regret later. This is exactly how many relationships are destroyed. In a state of anger, we may say things that hurt somebody’s feelings and make them want to retaliate, or in a worse case say something that hurts them that they don’t want to open up to us ever again. So we’ve got to realise the power of our words, both to create and to destroy.

We’ve got to be precise in the words we use because they carry meaning not only to ourselves about our own experience but also to others. If you don’t like the results you’re getting in your communication with others, take a closer look at the words you’re using and become more selective. I’m not suggesting that you become so sensitised that you can’t use a word. But selecting words that empower you is important.

I want to ensure that I am not being misinterpreted either. We do, at times, need negative emotions.

There are times we need to get ourselves into an angry state in order to create enough leverage to make a change. All human emotions have their place. However, we want to make certain that we do not access our most negative and intense states to start with. So please don’t misinterpret me; I’m not asking you to live a life where you don’t have any negative sensations or emotions. There are places where they can be very important. Realise that our goal is to consistently feel less pain in our lives, and more pleasure. Being aware of the words you use is one of the single most simple and powerful steps toward that goal.

It can be an interesting learning exercise. Becoming aware of the words you use, the impact they have on you and the impact they have on those around you. It is all about awareness. Become aware of what you are saying, the words that you use and the effects or impact of those words.

“Be an inspiration to yourself and

you will be an inspiration to others.”