Are You the Roadblock to Creating a Better Life?

Have you stopped lately to think about your life? What is happening in your life? Is this the life you want? What parts of your life do you love? What parts of your life annoy you? What parts of your life would you like some small improvements in?

Life is forever changing. We go through cycles in our lives which begin from the moment we are born. At that stage, we are a fully-dependent baby, and then we become a toddler, then a child, then a teenager. This is always such an interesting period where we are still a child and just breaking into being an adult, thinking we are an adult. This cycle goes on.

You could look at our school to work cycle. For many young children, it starts with playgroups, then kindergarten, then primary school, onto secondary school. After that, it is choices as to working or further study, eventually leading onto work.

Life doesn’t stop there. For many, it is the cycle of finding a partner, perhaps getting married, having children. This part is also a cycle, from being a two person house, to more than that, to then being, as they call it, “empty nesters”.

My point being that life is forever changing, but we often don’t change with it as well or as much as we should and can.

What do you want out of life? Have you taken the time to think about it? They do say we can have anything we want if we set our mind to it. That is where the problem is for many of us. We don’t set our mind to thinking about what it is we want. We are caught up in the circle of life. If you are finding it hard to think about then perhaps ponder on the questions at the start of this article:

·         What parts of your life do you love?

·         What parts of your life annoy you?

·         What part of your life would you like some small improvements in?

·         What parts of your life would you like some major improvements in?

You don’t have to answer all the questions at once as that may be too overwhelming. It may be best to think about some small areas for improvement.

So here are the steps:

• Think about the area of your life you would like a small improvement in.
• What is the change you would like to see?
• What do you have to start doing for this change to happen?
• What do you need to stop doing for this change to happen?
• When are you going to start?
• How will you know when you are successful?
• When will this change occur?

Fantastic, so now we are clear on what we need to do, how we need to do it, and when we need to do it.

So the key now is to take action. Nothing will change unless you take action to make the changes happen.

To finish, I would love to share one of my favourite Buddhist sayings. I really feel it sums up persistence, which is a skill we need to make some changes that will benefit us?

"In the confrontation between

the stream and the rock,

the stream always wins –

not through strength,

but through persistence."

So don’t be the roadblock to creating a better life for yourself. Take a little bit of time to think about your ideal life. Then think about one small change you can make today so that you are living the life you always dreamed.