Be Aware Of Your Speech

One of the most amazing facts of life is that our speech determines our direction in life. Not only does it determine our thinking, but it influences so many others that we come into contact with daily.

Words are powerful.

Have you heard the saying, “What you say is what you get”?

To control your words, you must first control your mind. Whatever we sow, we reap. Words are the most powerful thing in the universe.

The words we speak will either hold us in bondage or bring us into success.

Be aware of the words you use and choose wisely; both for your own benefit and those around you.

Life Just Is

Life just is.  You have to flow with it.

Give yourself to the moment.  Let it happen.

Governor Jerry Brown

 Have you ever taken the time to think about what you can and what you can’t control?  I love to be in control.  I love being organised and systematised as they help me be in control.  However, I have come to realise that there are factors way beyond my control, and that, in order to progress I need to let go of those factors.

The only person that I can control is me.  That is the person I need to rely on.  I love to help people, support people, encourage people; however, at the end of the day, the only person I can control is me.  I can give my best to others, but I can’t make them take action or change.  They have to want to do that.

So I have relinquished control of others and it has been liberating.  Life is no longer stressful when I realised that I can only control one person!  I no longer take responsibility for others.  I no longer hold the weight of their decisions or lack of action.  So long as I am doing my best and being my best then that is what is right for me.

The other bonus is the less time you spend trying to control others, the more time you have for you!  How liberating.

I Am Responsible

To release my potential
from past restrictive programming
of my subconscious,
it is extremely important
that I give myself the right to be me
and to function as I choose.
It is not possible to have sound self-esteem
if I am not true to myself
or give up responsibility and accountability
for my own life
as I seek to achieve fulfilment
of my needs and goals.

I want to allow myself the freedom to choose
without building a prison for myself with
“have to’s”, “cannot’s” and “they won’t let me’s.”

I recognise I am functioning
from my own free choice and I can either:
recognise myself as important,
valuable and interesting as a person,
or see myself as an absolute incompetent,
who is unworthy and unneeded.
I can choose to be kind, loving,
helpful, loyal and compassionate,
or to be lazy, cowardly, mean and disloyal.
I can choose to be happy,
free and succeed in each undertaking
or to fail and feel unimportant and less than others.

If I allow myself this freedom,
I must recognise
I am responsible for my decisions and actions
and be willing to accept
the consequences they bring.

I know I am the one
who will answer for my every action,
and will profit or suffer accordingly.

Therefore, before every important decision,
I ask myself:
What ought to be done for me?
Will it injure myself or others?
Is this in accord with my beliefs and goals?
Is it in alignment with reality as I see it?
Am I willing to fully accept the consequences?

To be truly free and to grow in self-esteem,
I must not give up my growth,
pursuit of fulfilment or happiness to anyone.

I choose to treat myself with dignity
and proceed to move toward full love,
 wisdom, freedom and joy,
knowing I am the authority over me.

Author Unknown

Action:

• Be true to you
• Be 100% responsible for your life
• Recognise me as important
• Be free
• Move forward

Thank you and I look forward to sharing more tips, strategies and skills to support you to be more organised so that you too can create a better life.

“Be an inspiration to yourself and

you will be an inspiration to others.”

Taking Responsibility

Every day events occur in our household, in our neighbourhood, in our state, in our country, in the world that may affect our outlook for the day. They may affect our mood, and they may affect how we react to other people. It can be as trivial as someone in the family racing out the door and not saying goodbye; it could be a world event like a tsunami that makes us grieve for the loss that other people are going through.

We need to understand that we can’t control what occurs in the world, we can’t control political events, and we can’t control interest rates; what we can control is how we react to these situations. It’s about the decisions you make and accepting responsibility for the consequences of those decisions.

Perhaps we aren’t achieving what we would like to achieve in our life because of who controls or influences our life. It may be others, such as:

• Your parents
• Your partner
• Your children
• Your boss
• Your work colleagues
• The government
• World events
• The driver who cut you off in traffic today
• The queue at the supermarket

By allowing circumstances, events and words to affect us in a negative way, we’re passing control of our thoughts, mood, and experiences onto other people who are out of our control. When this occurs, we’re living a reactive life. The benefit of letting others control us is that we have someone else to blame – that lets us off the hook.

The alternative action is that we could take responsibility for our self.

Empower yourself in three steps:

Making the choice to be in control can be empowering you only need to control yourself. So here are the steps:

1. Recognise that you have the power to choose how you react to a situation
2. Recognise when you are not taking responsibility for your life
3. Practise stopping yourself when you are letting others control you and take responsibility

This is a new behaviour so practise is really important.

If you don’t run your own life, someone else will

John Atkinson

You can choose to take responsibility for your life.

Thank you and I look forward to sharing more tips, strategies and skills to support you to be more organised so that you too can create a better life.

“Be an inspiration to yourself and

you will be an inspiration to others.”